I’ve just come to the not-so surprising end (when you consider the title) of Those Who Leave and Those Who Stay and all I have are these words running through my head:
Push me-pull me
For God’s Sake!
Get over yourself!
Get on with it!
Ultimately, though, I was left with the uncomfortable, complicated feeling of ‘I don’t like any of you very much.’
Except maybe Elena’s sister, Elisa. There was something about her ‘good girl’ wish to please and ‘peacemaker’ desire to avoid rocking the boat that I connected to.
It’s complicated because even though I’ve come to strongly dislike most of the main characters, I still want to know what happens. Maybe it’s a simple as wanting to see them get their just desserts?
Flawed human characters are interesting and can inform us about our lives and relationships, but somewhere during book three, the flaws come to dominate at the expense of any endearing, engaging behaviours. Perhaps, again, this is a simple comment on the chaotic lives of most twenty-somethings or the crazy political situation in Naples post WWII.
At one point Lila says, ‘Each of us narrates our life as it suits us.’
We all have the desire to tell our story so we can be the heroes in our own life. If this is the best possible version of the Elena and Lila story, I’d hate to see the worst! Meanness, pettiness, cruelty and unkindness abound. It’s a desperate world, on the brink of political and social upheaval. There are no happy ever after fairy tale endings to look forward to.
Lila once again sums up their world and their times by saying, ‘In the fairy tales one does as one wants, and in reality one does what one can.’ It’s not even the ‘best we can do’ – it’s more basic and instinctual than that – it’s about survival – at any cost. Being the best you can be is part of the fairy tale.
The first half of the book takes us into Lila’s chaotic world, while the second half is all about Elena’s story. Both stories delve into ‘the solitude of women’s minds‘. With Lila we are often left to guess and assume what’s really going on inside her head, whereas Elena shows us all her meandering, indecisive thoughts.
One forgets just how far women’s rights have come in the past 40 yrs. Reading about the sexual revolution of the late 60’s – early 70’s in a devout Catholic country reminds us all how much has actually changed for the better. But it also highlights the challenges and provocations of this time, for both men and women.
I confess that I now need a little break from this world of brutality, unkindness and militancy. It’s exhausting and quite draining…even though I can’t get them out of my head!
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This book is part of my #XmasinSummer reading challenge.